Posted on October 15 2022
I am standing in line at an airline's customer service counter with a pile of papers; someone at the counter screams at the clerk while a young couple ahead of me comments on how correct that person is. I politely interject and point out that yelling at the clerk who is supposed to help us is never a good idea. They ask me about my story, and once I finish sharing, they reply with, "How can you be so patient?"
Patience is not the ability to wait but the ability to keep a good attitude while waiting. When we are patient, we can see the bigger picture and acquire the peace of mind we would otherwise lose. As a quote states, "One minute of patience, ten years of peace" that day, I was able to have all of my issues resolved and receive additional help and extra perks from approaching the clerk with patience.
Patience is that natural power we have within ourselves to wait for something without getting angry or upset. The longer we must wait; however, the more patience escapes us. In our changing world today, it's no wonder that our patience is being tested.
We hold ourselves and others to unrealistic high standards; we are so used to receiving quick answers at the swipe of a finger that we beat ourselves down when results don't come at the speed we expect. When we are impatient, we deny the world and ourselves the support needed; we reject, judge harshly, and become unkind.
To make up for our sense of inadequacy, we push ourselves harder, keep focusing on the goals and hold ourselves and others to unrealistic standards; we beat ourselves down and criticize. We feel guilty for having human emotions.
Patience means embracing ourselves with self-acceptance and focusing on progress rather than perfection. It means speaking to ourselves with more kindness.
There are different ways we can incorporate patience into our lives.
It is essential to focus on the progress and what we are learning rather than beating ourselves down for not doing it right on the first try or not doing enough.
Like anything else, we can practice patience in our daily routine; let someone go in front of us at the supermarket, take a moment when we sit down to consume a meal. These small actions will lead to learning patience and the capability to apply it to more significant events.
We must bring our focus back to a few actions, reduce stress and multitasking by learning to say no, understand when our plate will be too full, and ultimately say kind things to ourselves.
After all, when we teach a child or a pet, we do not expect them to learn in one session; why would we expect that from ourselves? With love and patience, nothing is impossible.
For the November Manifestation Box I prepared you tools to help work on patience. Stay strong, stay positive! Love, Szilvia