Is your mother still alive?
Posted on April 21 2021
Mother’s Day makes me filled with really mixed emotions. My mother and both my grandmothers are dead. It makes me feel sorrow. I am a mother of a seven-year-old energetic healthy boy. It fills me with gratitude. Around Mother’s Day I am on an emotional roller coaster between sadness and joy, self-pity and happiness.
I read a really great teaching in one of my yoga magazines. There was this old man who only had one cow on his farm. That cow run away one day and everyone in his village said “Oh poor man… what are you gonna do now?”
A couple days later the cow came back and brought a bunch of friends. Now this guy had a whole life stock of cows. All his neighbors were saying “Oh you are so lucky.”
The following month the man’s only son broke his leg and could no longer help his father maintain the farm. The man’s friends said “Oh… poor man you are so old what are you going to do now?”
Just a few days later, the war broke out and the government enlisted every young man from the village to join the army and fight for the country - except for this man’s son, because his leg was broken and couldn’t walk. Every mother in town said “You are so lucky.”
The moral of the story to me was to learn to except things as they are. It is what it is.
This story teaches me about resilience, the capacity to recover quickly from difficulties.
Psychologists define resilience as the process of adapting well in the face of significant sources of stress, family and relationship problems, health issues, or financial stressors.
As much as resilience involves “bouncing back” from these difficult experiences, it can also involve profound personal growth.
While these adverse events, much like rough ocean waters, are certainly painful and difficult, they don’t have to determine the outcome of our life.
There are many aspects of our lives that we can control, modify, and grow with. That’s the role of resilience. Becoming more resilient not only help us get through difficult circumstances, it also empowers us to grow and even improve our life along the way.
One of my favorite saying is “It's not whether you get knocked down, it's whether you get up,” Vince Lombardi
Getting knocked down is a part of life, and if you stay down you're not going to get very far. Getting back up is the key to success in all areas of life, business, finances, relationships, and health.
We are all facing obstacles and going through difficulties in our lives at times. There are days when we feel that we are unlucky, nothing works the way we want it to, nobody understands us…
Many times in my life things don’t work out as I plan. Practicing Resilience helps me not to give up and try again in a different way. If that doesn’t work out either, then I try something else. It is not an easy practice. If it was easy, everybody could do it 😉